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homeschool and socialization

Homeschool and Socialization: What Happens at Home

Homeschool and socialization reinforce each other. Homeschooling gives kids the opportunities to experience putting social skills to use!

Socialization is the process by which we learn and internalize the values and expectations of our culture so that we may fulfill our roles. 

This is a never-ending process. For instance, the role of a child at Christmas is different than that of a parent, and both are different from that of a Grandparent.

What people usually call socialization, the ability to interact well with others is actually acquired sets of skills. These skills can be interpersonal or intrapersonal or a mix.

Homeschool and Socialization

So truthfully, both modes of education socialize our kids.

We are a fully American, modern family.

My kids eat American food, watch YouTube, and keep up with trends like fidget spinners and video games.

However, I get the privilege to steer my kids to influences I trust.

​However, they won’t have peers teaching them that’s it’s uncool to play with younger siblings or pressure them to act or dress certain ways.

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Home Culture

We create a home culture and socialize our kids to it. “Home Culture” is the atmosphere we strive for in our homes, and it starts with us, the parents.

Think about what your home is like at any given time?

Is everyone glued to a screen (yes, this happens at our house, we are not a technology adverse family). Is there fighting or screaming?

Are the kids expected to help each other, with chores, or do they ignore each other? Do you spend time with your kids cooking?

​Do you enjoy your home? Is it a place you can relax and be productive?

I think very intently on what our home culture is like. We want to emphasize education, entrepreneurship, cleanliness, the dignity of work, cooperation, character, and connection.

So how do I turn this abstract plan into a culture?

I make these things part of our daily life.
I model it as much as I can.

We talk about our cultural expectations constantly, whether my kids understand fully is inconsequential.

They are learning, and it’s a never-ending process; however, I don’t praise their results. I praise their work.

I stick to my guns. For example, I only take clean kids places. I ask who wants to go. Those that do, get a bath first. No bath, no go.

I set the example. If I lose my temper, if I hurt someone’s feelings, I apologize.

Connection Glues it Together

​We spend time together focusing on connection and shared experiences. Spending time together working is as important as play. We cook together. Clean together. Do school together. We are together.

A strong home culture ensures that kids know what is expected of them. That, in turn, helps everyone avoid the stress of misbehavior. It builds a feeling of community and trust that we feel joy in the presence of each other.

Establishing a home culture takes vision, time, effort, communication, and repetition, but the effort is well worth the result. Kids that grow into adults who are moral and hardworking who don’t cave to peer pressure.

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What about Interpersonal Skills?

How do homeschooled kids learn simple social/interpersonal skills like sharing, taking turns and more complex behaviors like empathy and consideration? 

First of all, it is a myth that you must attend school to learn any social skills. Like socialization, learning social skills is a never-ending process that starts at birth. 

Many social and interpersonal skills are learned through day to day interaction. Each interaction has the potential to teach, and each is valuable. 

Interacting with anyone, their siblings or cousins, friends, babysitters, grandparents are great opportunities to practice and learn social skills. 

I would argue that homeschooled kids have more opportunities to practice these skills than traditionally schooled kids. Homeschoolers spend less time listening and doing busy work and way more time interacting than school kids. 

Next, I would like to distinguish between real play and interaction, and forced socialization. Forced socialization is what schools practice. All those kids don’t really have a choice about what school to go to.

They aren’t grouped by interests or abilities, rather geography and age. 

Last, I would like to point out that there were not public schools for the majority of human history, and people were still socialized to their culture and learned appropriate social and interpersonal skills for thousands of years. 

Conclusion

Homeschool and socialization reinforce each other, and through homeschooling, we are given the ability to create a home culture so we can encourage our kids to be the best they can be.